The family law codes of most American states are outdated and have outlived their usefulness. Most states’ family law codes were written in the 1970’s, when divorce rates were much lower than at present. The 80-20 rule that characterizes most state family law codes makes bad divorce and separation proceedings all the more caustic when custody of a child is in the cards. One parent will be the 80% physical custodian and primary decision maker for the couple’s shared child / children, while the other parent will merely be a visitor to their offspring.
While the concept of shared custody and a presumption of joint physical custody isn’t always possible, as some parents are legitimately abusive and / or unfit, it is a viable and welcome alternative in most cases. By reforming family law codes to treat both parents equitably with regard to custody of their children, society can end the current practice of government-mandated single parent childhood imposed by family courts on children caught in custody disputes.